The festive season is often painted as a time of joy, connection, and celebration. But for those navigating recovery from an eating disorder, it can feel like anything but. The pressure to meet the season’s expectations can amplify feelings of stress, inadequacy, or isolation. And for those struggling, the holidays might feel like a season to endure, rather than enjoy.
At Orri, we understand this. We know the festive season is complicated, and recovery doesn’t take a holiday. That’s why this December, we’re focusing on Presence Over Perfection – an invitation to shift the narrative and find grounding in what truly matters.
Why the Holidays Can Feel So Hard in Recovery
For many, the holidays revolve around food, family, and social events – all of which can feel overwhelming when you’re in recovery. The unspoken pressure to “perform” or put on a brave face can make it harder to stay connected to yourself and your needs. Moments that seem simple for others, like sitting down to a shared meal or navigating small talk at a family gathering, can become emotionally charged or exhausting.
Add to that the external noise of social media – a stream of glittering highlight reels showcasing others’ “perfect” holidays—and it’s easy to feel as though you’re falling short. But here’s the truth: perfection doesn’t exist. And more importantly, you don’t need to be perfect to experience moments of connection, peace, and joy.
Choosing Presence Instead
Presence asks something different of us. It invites us to let go of expectations – whether they come from society, loved ones, or ourselves – and focus instead on what’s within reach: the present moment.
This might look like:
- Tuning into your breath when overwhelm creeps in. Even one deep, steady inhale can help ground you in the here and now
- Setting boundaries that protect your energy and wellbeing. You have permission to say no to situations that feel too much
- Celebrating small wins. Maybe that’s joining the table for part of a meal, or pausing to notice the sound of laughter in the background
- Letting the season be messy. Recovery is not linear, and neither is life. Some days will feel harder than others, and that’s okay
Presence also means embracing imperfection. It’s in the burnt cookies, the awkward family moments, the quiet pauses between the noise. These are the places where connection, humour, and growth can emerge – if we let them.
A Note for Parents and Loved Ones
If you’re supporting someone in recovery, this season may bring its own set of challenges. You might worry about how to help or feel pressure to create a “perfect” holiday for everyone. But your loved one doesn’t need perfection from you – they need your presence. A listening ear, a calm reassurance, or even a shared laugh can mean more than you realise.
It’s okay to give yourself grace, too. Supporting someone in recovery is an act of love, but it doesn’t mean you have to do everything or get it right all the time. By taking care of yourself, you’re better able to show up for them in meaningful ways.
Reaching Out for Support
If you’re struggling this season – whether you’re in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is – you’re not alone. At Orri, we understand how tough this time of year can be. Our team is here to provide compassionate, expert support, helping you navigate the holidays with a focus on what truly matters: your wellbeing and recovery.
This December, we invite you to give yourself the gift of presence over perfection. Lean into the small, imperfect moments. Take one step at a time. And if you need extra support, we’re just a call away.
