‘Hurt people hurt people’. A moving poem depicting the painful journey to eating disorder recovery. A reminder that there is hope.
“As I poured my heart and soul into crafting this poem, I was driven by a deep-seated desire to share a message of empathy and understanding. As a person who has battled the crippling effects of anorexia, I have felt the sharp sting of pain and confusion that comes with feeling lost and broken. But even amidst the chaos and turmoil, I have come to realise that hurt individuals often end up hurting others not out of malice, but due to their own struggles to survive and heal, just like you and me. Sometimes, their inability to offer love and support may stem from their own inner demons.
However, we must not lose hope, for healing is indeed possible. If we can cultivate patience and give ourselves time, we can gradually learn to put on the oxygen mask on ourselves first, taking care of our own needs before attempting to help others. Through daily steps towards recovery and overcoming trauma, we can eventually find the strength and courage to heal. When we reach that point, we’ll be better equipped to love and support those around us, as well.
If you’re going through a tough time, please remember that you are not alone in your struggles. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders all by yourself. Take a deep breath, be kind to yourself, and ask for help. You are worthy of love and compassion, no matter what you have been through.”
Hurt people hurt people
Because broken minds cannot see the blue within skies,
they go around with a slight darkness looming
They do not mean to
But hurt people can hurt people
Because they do not know what it is like to be fully healed yet
They have not been shown what unconditional pure love
They are so preoccupied with just surviving
That they forget that you are a person too
Going about your day living without so much dismay
They do not know that you cannot sympathise or understand
You know that saying from cabin crews on airlines
The one that makes everyone’s eyes role to the back of their heads
because they’ve heard it all before
The one that instructs you to place the oxygen mask
Upon yourself before you begin to help others
Well, that is precisely why
Hurt people hurt people
They struggle with placing the oxygen mask over their mouths
So, they cannot even fathom the idea of helping you just yet.
That isn’t a thought in their mind
It’s not a malicious act
It’s just that they’re taking care of themselves first
They live and breathe for themselves at this time
When they have healed
They will come back
They will gladly aid you with your oxygen mask
Just give them time.
Trauma can be suffocating
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